Choosing Symapthy Flowers

When a death occurs, knowing how to comfort those left behind is not easy. As difficult as it is to know what to say, sending funeral flowers can be sometimes even more difficult. Just what is appropriate to memorialise relatives, or people to whom you are not related? How about those you've not personally met, such as the wife or husband of someone you know.

Does it matter which type of floral arrangement I choose? What is appropriate to send for a cremation?

Yes, there are rules of etiquette that dictate what types of floral arrangements are appropriate, based mostly on the sender's relationship with the deceased.

Anyone may send floral baskets or living plants. They are especially appropriate when the sender had a closer relationship to the bereaved than to the deceased. These baskets are generally of an all occasion type, and are sent to the bereaved's home or workplace.

Sympathy baskets, sent to the funeral home or the bereaved's home, are appropriate when sent by family, or those who had a deeper, or formal relationship with the deceased.

Floral wreaths, crosses, and sprays, available in many sizes, are appropriate when sent by anyone other than those not acquainted with the deceased. The exception to this would be associations that would like to honour the deceased for service during their lifetime.

Younger children, or grandchildren of the deceased, will like to honour them with lid arrangements. These, as well as casket covers, are traditionally reserved for family members. Should you wish to send an arrangement of this type, be sure to ask the family first.

Floral arrangements known as tributes are generally chosen by good friends or family members. You may memorialise someone by choosing a special design based on an aspect of their personality, their occupation, an association membership, forces connection or a hobby. Other tribute arrangements are available as well. Tributes are also appropriate, given by anyone, in the case of cremation.

In the case of cremation, much depends on whether a funeral service is planned. If so, you may choose a tribute arrangement or any other type of arrangement not reserved for family members. If there will be a memorial service at the bereaved's home, or if there will be no services at all, it is more appropriate to send an all-occasion type floral basket arrangement.

Is it alright to send brightly-coloured flowers for a funeral?

Certainly. Bright flowers can reflect on the energetic personality of the deceased. They may be chosen to send a message about how we felt about that person - that, in life, they gladdened our hearts and made us feel happy to have known them.

Would it be all right to send flowers if the death notice requests a charitable donation, "in lieu of flowers"?

Yes. Flowers at the funeral service not only add warmth and life to a somber event, they are a tangible tribute. They let the bereaved know, visibly, how much their loved one touched the lives of others. Just as we would never choose not to send sympathy cards, offer assistance, or donate food when asked to make a financial contribution, flowers are always appropriate and appreciated.

May I send a live plant to a funeral home? If so, will it be sent to the family afterwards?

Yes, it is appropriate to send a green or flowering plant. Some funeral homes will deliver plants or flowers to the bereaved's home after the memorial services, if specified. Others may require that the family take them home with them. Ask the funeral home staff about their policy.

Can I send flowers in a glass vase to a funeral home?

From an etiquette standpoint, this is absolutely acceptable. However, some funeral homes have rules about certain types of arrangements. If the arrangement you would like to send is anything outside the realm of traditional sympathy floral designs, you should consult the funeral home concerning their policy on such arrangements before ordering.

Are there special considerations when sending flowers as a group? How should we sign our names?

Sending flowers as a group is a very good idea. When mourners pool their financial resources for one arrangement, it can be that much more special, and will have much greater impact. Gift cards are large enough to hold a number of names. However, if the list of names is very long, you may choose to identify yourselves by family, group, or department if coworkers. In either case, you should supply one contact name and address so that the family can send thanks.

I've missed the funeral! Is it OK to send flowers to the family's home? If so, for how long afterwards?

Absolutely! Flowers are always appreciated, no matter when they are received. Even if you will also be attending the funeral, sending flowers to the bereaved's home is a wonderful gesture. Some people choose to send flowers a week or so after the funeral, after the necessary chaos of a death. It has actually become popular to send flowers to the home over a period of time after the funeral to remind the bereaved that we are still thinking of them and their loss.

Where can I find a suitable florist for my funeral flowers?

This is an area where using a local florist is often more appropriate as local florists have lots of experience in providing funeral flower arrangements and there are some florists that specialise in this area. Your local florist will be able to create and theme a unique floral tribute based on the life of your loved one and offer excellent advice and guidance as to what flowers and arrangements will be most suitable. Local florists are usually more flexible in the delivery of your flowers and much more sensitive to the needs of the situation in terms of when, where and how the delivery will take place. Freytag's Florist has been serving the Austin area since 1971 and we are experienced in working with local funeral homes.